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Professor Dan Cable and comedian Akin Omobitan unearth social science’s hidden gems by “funpacking” peer-reviewed articles and sharing their choice findings!
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Wednesday Jul 10, 2019
Wednesday Jul 10, 2019
Expressing gratitude has scientifically proven benefits, both for expressor and recipient, and seems like an all-round good thing to do. So why aren’t we doing this more often? Turns out there’s some very good reasons, and those reasons can be overcome.
- Research Paper: 'Undervaluing Gratitude: Expressers Misunderstand the Consequences of Showing Appreciation' by Amit Kumar and Nicholas Epley
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To end, (sorry this is longer than I thought) I opened saying that I have been procrastinating to listen to the pods. Only now that there is no beer at hand I got to do it; the truth is that I in my mind I kept waiting for “perfect” time to do it when I was not distracted by the phone, e-mail, blah, blah. I think this relates to showing gratitude some time we just keep waiting for the “right time” without realizing there is no better time than now. That was all thanks a lot.
Tuesday Sep 17, 2019
3. Finally, one of the people I requested stories from was my ex-wife, and I must confess with her I did it a little bit with a second intention, because although we try to be in good terms as we raised our son. I also wanted to know when she has seen me at my best. But, also thought that reliving these moments would help us to get closer. So, I was disappointed when she apologized and didn’t share anything, however, now hearing about the awkwardness described in the studies has given me a different perspective as to why she didn’t want to share.
Tuesday Sep 17, 2019
2. Among the people, I asked for stories were some very close friends that are close friends among themselves too. So some of their messages included situations where they have seen me at my best no for something I have done for the author of the message but for one of our common friends. Interestingly a few months after receiving their stories we had the opportunity to meet all together (we all live in different countries) I got to thank them in person for their input, to my surprise they knew about these situations they had shared, not because of the exercise, but because they have shared them between them years before. So while listening to you; it stroke me that a) perhaps we are less apprehensive to show gratitude we feel about a person to other but it is more of a struggle to do it directly to the person we are being grateful to. b) I also found out that a lot of my friends wrongly assumed I knew about it, i.e., let me tell you why I grateful to Alejandro… I tell you, but I do not tell him because he already knows (well I didn’t)
Tuesday Sep 17, 2019
1. The stories I thought will be more touched by for example my parents and my brothers, were, in fact, the less emotional. Don’t get me wrong still very lovely messages but I kind of already knew it and I think it is because I am fortunate enough to have a close family where quite often we show gratitude towards each other. So although incredible the messages were not surprising, nevertheless now I know why we have such a strong bond and is because we show gratitude on the regular basis.
Tuesday Sep 17, 2019
As I am stuck in a “dry hotel” in the middle of Bahrain I got to finally start listening to your pot casts, something I have been procrastinating for a while (I will get back to this later on!). As Akin, I had the opportunity to also take part in Essentic’s point positive and as I was listening the pod 3 things came to my mind I would like to share:
Tuesday Sep 17, 2019
Great Podcast ! Makes me want to share my gratitude more ...
Tuesday Jul 16, 2019
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